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Three Baby Showers In One Weekend…Help!
Man, I had three baby showers to attend this weekend. I had two back-to-back on Saturday that ended at midnight, and one on Sunday quite early. Didn’t think I could make it to one, but you know, God worked his wonders and I did make it to all THREE.
I was so sure I wasn’t going to make it to the late one on Saturday, but I had to. This is a close friend that I have known for 17 years! Yes, she knows that I’m preggers and sick because she’s had a difficult pregnancy too, but how do you really face a friend of 17 years and tell them you can’t make it to the shower of their first child?
I mean, I sent a gift to all three, so technically, I could have just called it a wrap. Sending a gift is way better than showing up in my mind. One less person to fill up the place and finish up your food.
Well, Greg and I teamed up and we attended both showers on Saturday (both coed), and had a really swell time. I enjoyed myself, but boy…I’m not really a fan of baby showers! Not the baby showers I go to, mind you, I am not a fan of the baby shower institution. Especially when they boycott men and you’re stuck playing these silly games with a bunch of women.
I’m like really? Do you think I care to guess what the baby weighs right now? Do I look like her Doctor? And I’m supposed to smell these poopie looking diapers and guess what type of chocolate was smeared in it to make it look like poop?!?! OK!
Trust me, I understand the relevance and appreciate the idea of gifting, but can you all just send the gifts to my home without making a big scene out of it and taking a picture with every single person that brought me a gift? What happens to the ones that didn’t bring any gift? They don’t get to be in the pictures with the pregnant lady? Have you seen what the economy is doing to people? That’s just dead wrong!
Yes, yes, I know my time is coming, but to be realistic, I don’t want a party. This is my third child. I will create a registry and would appreciate whoever is interested in gifting me to just have it mailed and call it a day. I’m sure majority of the people that attend baby showers can’t be bothered, but do attend out of guilt. They feel obligated and think that it may look bad if they don’t show up! Besides, isn’t it just such a hassle for the planners?
Well, I’m here to switch things up. I will send out details to my registry and DO NOT feel obligated to gift. I’m doing all of us a favor. No planning, no silly decorations, no boring games, no opening or gift announcement, no photo sessions, you save on gas, and best of all, no CLEANING up to do when it’s all over. You have better things do with your saturday. Go have fun!
That being said, I actually did have a good time at all three showers. Good food throughout, and good to see people we don’t see often. And, of course, I’m sure one of my friends or family members will send out the invitations to my shower in March. *sighs* 
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ohh dear. you had me cracking up on the ” do I look like her doctor?” part.
Very interesting perspective on baby showers. Sometimes they can be draining - all the people, the plannning etc. I prefer the coed showers as they end up being small get-togethers or large parties depending on the number of attendees. I use it a way to catch up with old friends that your normally do not get to see regularly. However if it has to be an all-female shower, my preference is the luncheon shower - few friends at a restaurant for lunch. No games,no cleanup, no children - just adult conversation for a few hours.
@ Kwavi- Yes, I do prefer coed too. The luncheon is however a very convenient, more mature alternative. Like that. You get to hang with the girls and not worry about all the other daunting tasks. That’s great. Thanks for the tip.
I actually really enjoy celebrating the birth of my new family and friends’ children…I enjoy decorating and setting up, picking or making gifts that will hopefully be something the child (and parents) will cherish, and celebrating the parents of the hour. I feel like I grew up with the culture and traditions of celebrating each other. I like that a lot about my childhood. It has helped me to put myself aside and think of what I can do for someone else. I think long and hard about each gift I give in order to make others feel special. I think I speak for a lot of women when I say that baby showers are not an obligation or a nussance, but a chance to celebrate childbirth and see friends and family that I don’t see often. The games may be silly but I look back at some of them, like the poopy diaper game at our sister-n-law’s shower, and laugh my a** off…
Okay, I love you right now. SCREW baby showers! I am so with you on every level - and I too wrote a post on showers and how I wanted to fart at the shower, and then announce it, just to see the reaction.
I wish I had had the cajones to do it. On second thought, I’m a girl - which means I don’t fart, so it wouldn’t have worked anyway, would it? Well, it’s the fart thought that counts.
Ann, loving you right back. Someone finally gets my beef with showers. Lol. Left a msg for you on your blog:)
Baby showers are great for mums who want all their friends around doing silly things. If that’s a friends idea of fun, I’m only too happy to indulge but I don’t get it myself. That said, 3 baby showers in one weekend is 2 too much!