What are the effects of a home without a father? Having a home with a missing father can be the result of many different things:
How does this affect a child? I mean, it’s really important to have the presence of both parents in a home, but I think more so, fathers. Fathers are highly regarded by their kids. They are looked upon as heroes, as powerful, as breadwinners and that protective shield for the family. (Don’t get me wrong, same goes for Mothers and if anyone knows that, I do, but my concern today is the father.)
For the sons of a missing father, does it determine your drive and struggle? Do you strive to become better than your father and not repeat the same cycle? Does it hurt so bad that you have no care in the world and turn to a group or organization for brotherly or fatherly love? Do you fall to despair and into the wrong circle of friends and influence? Do you find your direction in uncles, brothers, or other male elders?
And for the daughters of a missing father, do you sometimes find yourself choosing men that posses your father’s traits? Do you gravitate towards abusive men because that’s all you know? Or do you vow to choose wisely…someone very different from your father? Do you hate men because of your father? What is the emotional damage?
After all, your childhood is your foundation.
Kudos to our fathers. The ones that decided to stick around and handle their responsibilities. Kudos to the strong, hardworking, heroic and loving father. Even those that didn’t have a choice but to be missing in their child’s life due to circumstances.
Dear fathers, Your role in your child’s life is crucial. Be the best that you can be, so that your child can be better than you, and his/her child will be better than him/her. Plant that seed today. Talk to your child. Love your child. Endlessly. Guide your child. Tell your child “I love you.” Let your child see you cry. Let your child see you smile. Let your child see you struggle. Missing fathers, it’s never too late to make amends.